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Are too a feminist. [Mar. 14th, 2012|12:23 pm]
The American Caliban
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Sometimes I’ll hear someone, either a friend or just someone in earshot, talking along about political and social issues, say this:

“I’m not one of those feminists.” Or, “I can’t stand those feminists.”

If queried on this, I’ll hear something like “I wouldn’t put myself in that category” or “I’m just not like that, I couldn’t be one of those people.” If the person is male, the original comment was probably “I can’t stand feminists” or “Those feminists, they are bad because of blar blar blar.”

My response is a series of questions. For women: Do you have a college degree? Do you drive your own car? Do you have a career, or plan to have one? Do you have your own bank account and credit card? Do you wear pants when you feel like it? If you are with a man and you can’t stand him, can you leave? Do you like the fact that you can leave?

For men, the questions are more fun. Do you have a girlfriend? Do you and your girlfriend share an apartment or house? If so, does she pay half the rent and utilities? Does your wife or girlfriend work, and contribute to the family finances? Do you like being able to date women without marrying them? Do you like being able to earn an income and keep it without being obliged to marry? Do you like getting sex retail instead of having to buy it wholesale? Do you enjoy participating in hobbies, sports, and work activities with women? Are any of your customers or clients women who pay you for your services?

Folks, if you answered any of these questions “yes” then guess what! You are a feminist. You are benefiting and profiting from the increasing equality of women in society over the last hundred years. “Feminist” does not mean “angry castrating lesbian who wants you to use awkward pronouns”. It means someone, male or female, who believes that women should have financial, political, and sexual freedom, and that these freedoms require protection and extension.

Next time you benefit from the F-word you should remember it’s not an insult, it’s a badge of pride.

Note: this was originally posted on my “Content Goes Here” blog in 2003.

Mirrored from Be My Blog.


[User Picture]From: anaisdjuna
2012-03-14 09:29 pm (UTC)

Actually feminists believe everyone should have choice and freedom in those domains. It's not just about women. Feminists believe that we should look at the intersections of gender, race, ability, sexual orientation and class and evaluate whether or not there is empowered choice and equality and potential for equality.
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[User Picture]From: purejuice
2012-03-15 03:10 pm (UTC)
when and how, do you think, did feminism became something people did not want to identify themselves with?
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[User Picture]From: leolo
2012-03-17 02:23 am (UTC)
It would be tempting to blame the (at times) misandrist and aggressively doctrinairian 2nd wave feminists. But it would be more just to blame those who caricatured and demonized the 2nd wave feminists.
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[User Picture]From: purejuice
2012-03-17 02:50 am (UTC)
who would that be?
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[User Picture]From: capn_jil
2012-03-15 02:12 am (UTC)
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[User Picture]From: purejuice
2012-03-15 03:09 pm (UTC)
to be a feminist was a good thing in the 1970s. who and what do you think made it something nobody wants to be? mckinnon and dworkin?
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