Log in

No account? Create an account
Delicious LiveJournal Links for 4-2-2009 - A Shout Out to My Pepys [entries|archive|friends|userinfo]
The American Caliban

[ userinfo | livejournal userinfo ]
[ archive | journal archive ]

[Links:| Dad Pinboard Last.fm Subscribe to me [Friendfeed] Flickr ]

Delicious LiveJournal Links for 4-2-2009 [Apr. 2nd, 2009|12:01 am]
The American Caliban
[Current Mood |apathetic]


[User Picture]From: torgo_x
2009-04-05 12:41 pm (UTC)

Why Not Have A Kid

"Why Not Have A Kid"!! The, uh, people on display at that site, are on a line of thinking that I've been mulling over lately. (If you can mull a line.)

My observation from living around Ketchikan, a town that should just rename itself to Fucked-Up: having a kid at 19, or whatever, doesn't fuck up your life per se.

HOWEVER. Being a parent immensely amplifies the fuction of any otherwise minor fucked-up situation.

In fact, having a kid at 19 can mess up your even just trying to manage your young adulthood enough that you will have a sensible all-the-rest-of-adulthood.  "Well, I was going to go to grad school...". 

And iff'n there's a divorce, what if somebody wants to move, how does that work with custody and visitation and oboy

* * *

Or for all I know, maybe having a kid is just what makes people's lives snap together sensibly.  "Wait, what the fuck– was I actually seriously thinking for a second there about moving to Ithaca to get a Romance Linguistics degree at Cornell?!?! Thank god Bruno walking into the room made my brain reboot. Gawd! Oh, Bruno, yeah, let's work on your spelling homework."

It's my blunt and blunted impression that if you're in America and you're having a kid when you're young and not-upper-class, it's a serious wager that things are actually going to be just fine.  And there's the odds, and there's the outcomes, and zow.

A lot of this must have been easier Way Back When, before everything... went nuclear.

* * *

I conject: nobody needs to say "I like kids ergo let's get pregnant!".  There's a surplus of kids, and there's places where you can go get one, one that might not otherwise end up having parents at all unless you come on by.

* * *

"When we got married, we had an agreement: we were going to have an invisible baby, and name it Ten Hours Sleep A Night." —Patton Oswalt from the album Warewolves and Lollipops.

Hey, here's the track at low-fi.  Everyone go buy the album.  Nice DVD comes with it.

(Reply) (Thread)